I was speaking to someone today and I became just a touch angry… as I found out once again, as is the story of my life, that people assume too much.
The person was saying that they were shocked to find out that I feel worse about losing a lady I love to another man than I do about my mother passing on.
I look at it from a practical realistic point of view. My mother is dead and has been for ten years. It is final and cannot be changed so what good will it do me to mourn and feel sad about her passing still? I know she’s in a better place than this shithole of a world. Death is quite obviously a part of life – I finally learned the hard way to accept that after my daughter died.
It serves no purpose being sad about it. Wanting a loved one back who’s passed on is natural but being sad about it does one thing only – make a person feel like shit. So I just have faith they’re in a better place and I’m happy.
When you lose a person you love romantically to someone else (as opposed to that person passing away)… there’s always a tiny part of the brain that dares to hope it could be fixed. Because they’re alive it’s possible things could go back to the way they were. So when I lost out on a woman to another bloke THAT is why I feel worse about that than my mother passing.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh well… people will be human! To err is human. Assume and you only make an ASS out of U and ME!