I was amazed at the amount of freedom that came with knowing who one of my former girlfriends is in a relationship with.
Upon asking a few people about him it turns out he’s not a bad guy, but according to two separate people he’s a major pot head who smokes weed all the time. I may have had a lot of flaws like putting my job before my girlfriend, or when I was angry myself being blind to the hurt and frustration she had – but at least I’m not on something. I guess we all have our flaws.
It did irritate me and hurt a little bit when one of my former girlfriends said that I’m a mean person. I can say mean things in the heat of passion, but I don’t set out to hurt anyone purposely. I don’t think I’m mean – it struck me as rather ironic someone being mean by telling me I’m mean. I suspect that she didn’t think I was mean when we were together (unless she confused rude with mean).
Finding out who he was bothered me as I was directly lied to (as opposed to not answering, or being economical with the truth), but it’s still an awesome thing being in the know.
Now that I know who he is – I’m free. I’m no longer wondering if she left me for a woman abusing drunk, or a crack dealer. Life goes on with freedom and laughter.